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My Mom Won’t Let Me Take Piano Lessons?
PenelopeB84 asked:
she says its because im already taking violin lessons but wtf kind of reasoning is that? shes really being a b**** about this and i am so frustrated and crying…usually kids hate their moms for making them take lessons but this is the complete opposite situation! im so f****** pissed at her….
Tags: Violin Lessons, Mom, Piano Lessons, Moms
then teach your self. dont let her stop you.
keep playing and practicing.
well i stopped taking piano lessons but i still play i go on youtube and they give step by step tutorials on how to play almost any song on the piano. fighting with your mom wont help anything(believe me i know) so just work hard at violin and try teaching yourself a few songs on the piano yourself. money is tight right now so be grateful your parents are paying for violin lessons.. things will work out
she is dumb i would never stop my son from doing what he wants you re trying to take advantage of your gift wow straight up i agree with the other person just do it anyways she cant totally contol you she should be glad you are talented instead of being selfish and wanting you to do what she wants you to
ok i take piano lessons and i play seriously. so here are the reasons that u can tell ur mom why u should take piano lessons.
1. it can help u get to better schools. not a lot of people take piano and knows how to play, but there are a lot of peopel who knows how to play the violin. so maybe there was one spot left and they have to choose. there are 10 violin and 1 piano. they are going to choose the piano becuase it needs more effort and 1 is more valuable than 10. piano is harder than violin and takes more effort.
2.it teaches u that u need to listen to whatever u are playing. it teaches u that u need to play with ur heart, not just becuase my parents make me practice, u need to practime smart not just wasting time. i do play a little violin and i know it’s way easier than piano.
3. it teaches u to have patience over many things. when u learn a piece, is not like oh i learn it and i am done! new piece please! no, u need to get deeper and deeper into the piece and polish and add more things.
4. u get more money for scholarships and have a better chance of meething someone famous. i have a friend who got a presidental award and meet former president Bush W. she also don’t have to pay a penny for college (hartford). why? this schoarship cover her WHOLE fees for college. tution… and violin players may also get schlarships but only like 1/36 of what piano players get.
5. piano is the KING TO ALL INSTRUMENTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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You sound like a kid, that’s not bad, but if it is true you could be totally unaware of what your violin lessons are costing your family, or how much or how little money your family has to keep everything going, the roof over your head, clothes, food, etc. etc. etc.
Many parents I know have re-arranged their budgets in order to be able to afford music lessons for their kids.
If you’re old enough to work part time, maybe you could save up and find yourself a piano teacher and pay for the lessons yourself!
Best, Petr B.
Hi Penelope:
I bet you are frustrated! As a teacher I would love to have a student like you who really wants to play. But I also know that it isn’t always easy for parents.
Let me give you a suggestion or two, if that’s ok.
First, I suggest that you show your mom that you really want these lessons by getting a job of some sort ASAP. You can do this several ways depending on your age: get a job at a business for a few hours a week. Or if you are not old enough, try asking at your school if there are ways for you to earn extra money, You’d be surprised how many people call to find out if there are students interested in helping them with yardwork, painting, computer problems, writing, reading, etc. Check it out. Be creative. There are always ways to find work.
Or, ask your mom if there are jobs you can do above and beyond what you ordinarily do to help out at home.
Above all, remain calm with your mom. Show her how mature you are by asking calmly, repeatedly, and by working to make money. It may take time, but if you are calm, persistent, and earning money, this will go a long way in her buying into the idea of lessons on two instruments. Avoid getting angry.
Lastly, you can ask your teacher if there are ways you can help him or her by working for them. I barter all the time with students whose parents cannot afford lessons.
Good luck!
Oh the eloquence and prose of English language.
You’ve also got to understand your family’s budget. and your time commitments. Lessons aren’t cheap and she may already be sacrificing so that you can take your violin lessons. She’s got a better grasp of you schedule (school & extra curricular activities) and those of your siblings and her own. There are only so many hours in a day, and Mom’s Taxi can’t be in three places at once.
You are quite going to have to change your attitude and prove to her that you are capable.
… or grab a hunk of cheddar to go with all that whine.
[Edit: I wonder if this will go to vote because of apathy?]
If your mum reads this, you swearing at her and all, she’ll be very hurt for sure. Perhaps she hasn’t the budget, have you asked her nicely about that?
I think an attitude adjustment may be warranted here. You sound very young and perhaps your mother knows you better than you are willing to admit.
If you want piano lessons, and you want your mother to pay for them, you must use statement number one which states “The only person you can change is yourself.” This means you cannot change your mother however you can change yourself and become the person your mother would consider giving piano lessons.
Get a handle on you anger and instead of butting heads with your mother, try to understand why she reacted to you the way she did when you asked about piano lessons. I know she must have her reasons for saying no.
I don’t know you and I don’t know you mother, and I don’t know your family situation, but if she is allowing you to take violin lessons, she definitely cares about you. Now care about her enough to find out why she responded like she did.
If you intend to major in music in college, you’re on the right track.
Piano-proficient students do well in music theory class,
piano-challenged students don’t.
Riley’s suggestion is good for a self-motivating student.
I hope you consider his suggestion, and I hope you are a self-motivating student.
PS When I was in high school, my mom made me take piano lessons when I wanted to concentrate on violin lessons.
Parents are NEVER satisfied, are they!
If it’s not an issue of money, maybe you could suggest to your mother that you have a trial of a few weeks of piano lessons so that you can prove to her that you can keep up with the practice on both instruments.
You need to calm down and ask your mom nicely about why exactly she isn’t allowing you to take piano lessons. It may be that you already have too many commitments (school, extra-curricular activities, your violin lessons, etc.) and she knows that you won’t be able to cope with one more on top of those. It may be that your violin lessons already cost your family a lot and she simply doesn’t have to budget to let you take piano lessons as well. You may not know how much music lessons can cost.
I will speak from personal experience and I hope you read this whole thing. I have been taking piano lessons since very young, and when I entered middle school, the music department encouraged all the music students (I was one of them) to take up a second instrument. I wanted it, but – my piano lessons already cost approximately $1000 each month because I was pretty advanced and studying from a professional concert pianist/university music professor. There was NO WAY my family would have been able to afford lessons on a second instrument if my aunt, who is a professional violinist, hadn’t volunteered to give me free violin lessons for the next 4 years. I’ve since finished ABRSM grade 8 for violin, and decided to stop the lessons and try another instrument. Partly also because I felt bad about making my aunt take time out of her busy schedule and teach me for nothing. I joined my high school harp ensemble, and if it wasn’t for the fact that they offered cheap lessons at $50 every 3 months (because it’s a group lesson and subsidized by the school), there was also no way on earth that I would have been able to learn the harp. Once I left high school and entered college, the lessons had to stop, even though it tore me apart. Now I’m taking vocal lessons (about US$60 per hour), and it’s only made possible by the fact that I’m on full scholarship for college, majoring in piano performance. So my parents don’t have to handle my college fees and vocal lessons at the same time. Do you see a possible reason for your mom’s refusal now?