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What Am I to My Boyfriend Now? What Happened to Us?
We have been together a year now. I love him, he says he loves me.
We don’t really go on dates anymore. Our relationship is kind and loving, enduring and then it can be completely dull. He’s really into playing the violin and always practices like today it was his day off and mine too so I thought we could spend the day together but he was gone all day taking lessons and practicing and then he comes home and we hug and he says he loves me and missed me then he says he wants to watch a movie a lone and it’s getting late so I’m calling it a night. This is how it is most times. We don’t spend our free time together much anymore, usually limited to an hour or 4 then I only see him for 30 minutes before bed. We don’t even kiss like we did before like when we started dating, it was so passionate then and now it’s just pecks. Especially because we now are living together, I don’t get what happened. I try so hard to liven things up but it always ends up with me spending my time by myself when I love him so much and he’s all I think about but things aren’t the way they were like when we started and I really really miss that. He would look at me and I could see sparks in his eyes, he was more excited to see me and now it’s like routine and special to him but he won’t show it, dull. But he says he really really truly loves me and wants a future for us, kids, marriage, so much stuff but then why is everything so boring and it’s like he doesn’t act like he did before. I really miss it :(
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relationships can get stale and you just have to work on them
I think the best way to solve this problem is to tell him all this that is on your mind.
Guys don’t pick up on hints, we have to be told
Well i think maybe when you 2 are in bed you need to have a long talk and let him know how you feel.He def still sounds like he really loves and cares about you.All you need to do it talk it out.
Hmmm…he probably thinks of the love you shared as factual, and he no longer has to express it, and he probably thinks that you have accepted it, so you don’t have to be reassured. He needs to make time for you, and if he loves you, and he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, then he should be lovey more often. You guys are now living together, do you cuddle? Cuddle and talk more often, to him it will be kinda gay, but he needs to realize that being a “Man” dosent mean that you are emotionless, and don’t express anything, or say what is on your mind. Being a true man means being there for your woman, talking about things and letting her know how you feel, while at the same time being respectfull and supportive and loving. It’s not hard, I do it, perfectly straight, I’m sick of proving myself to the other guys and trying to be a stone, I hate it.
Talk to him about this issue, even have him read this question, let him know how you feel and have him share his feelings. Communicate a little more.
All I got! Good Luck, sorry to hear that things have changed =\
Ryan
I really think you should talk to him about this!
Be honest with him about it. It is not working for you. It seems that he is taking you for granted and he is not aware of the efforts that you have exerted to get the spark back. You have to have some “us” time and you can’t plan it alone. It does take some effort on his part also,
everything that you told us. tell him. explain to him that you need more passion. to get a strong healthy relationship, the two should talk things out when something is bothering them. you know he loves you alot and vice versa so that’s set. Since valentines coming up…try to spice things up too